Having a positive mindset isn’t about being happy all the time. Even when you are facing the challenging hours, days, weeks or months, you know that this time will pass. There will be calmer, happier, easier, exciting times to come.
Knowing that the human experience is facing the harder times, digging deep to reveal the inner strength that is just waiting for you. To know that good and bad times come in and out of our life just as natural as the ebb and flow of the waves in the ocean.
What is mental strength to you?
I wasn’t sure what this blog was going to be about. I just knew that I needed to write and to turn my mind inside out to delve deeper.
This is me, being my vulnerable side, open to other opinions positive or negative but still hitting publish despite it all.
To show my vulnerability, helps others feeling the similar struggles feel not so alone, a little more normal and sense of belonging and connection to the world.
These feelings and thoughts I’m having are my own but also not unique, are not just mine but shared with so many out there.
I’m watching and feel resentment creep in like a virus. Being the victim and looking for a villian to blame for my feelings.
This isn’t a result of Covid – 19. This is the result of life and being human. For as long as I remember, I push myself, eager to grow, learn, see results, push for the next one, guilt myself into not doing enough, being enough.
Growth and learning is why I truly believe we are all in this world, with our own journey to lead. But where is the balance in this?
When do we stop having the enjoyment in this?
When do we hop off this hamster wheel to really open our life to the abundance of the simple things? The birds singing, the sun rising or a smile from a stranger, knowing we are all connected.
When do we start stepping out to the magic of the world instead of watching from a key hole with judgement about how others should be living?
At times, I find myself collapsing at the end of the day and complaining about being tired instead of acknowledging all the things I GET TO DO each day.
Time is a gift.
Waking up in the morning feeling overwhelmed with my To Do List instead of acknowledging that I get to fill my day with all these activities. I have my body, mind, spirit and love to pour out into the world.
It has been a common pattern for me, stepping off the hamster wheel only when it gets too much and I’m at the point of depletion, sadness, sweating the over the very small stuff.
Since my breakdown mentally after having my first baby, I have been dedicated to making space for self-care rituals, mindfulness and helping so many others from my journey.
I am incredible at holding space for my clients, friends and even strangers in my life. Wanting to help them feel better. Wanting to be my best for my kids and as a wife. But that little inner voice creeps in and stirs up the guilt. Guilt of not spending enough time with my kids, not spending enough time on my business, focusing so much of trying to control my time management, running a household, being present as a wife and ooops I've forgotten to hold space for ME.
But the guilt tells me again and again that I’m not doing enough, being enough.
In a mediation, before writing this down and starting my day off, I wondered what a friend would say to me right now. What would my 80 year old self say to me? What would I say to my 10 year old self?
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
My mantra for this next month or for however long I need it….
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be. EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE.
I think this might be a Brene Brown quote.
Changing circumstances will not change how we feel but changing our thoughts about our everyday word will.
I hope my share will help you or others feel a little more connected, a little less alone and feel OK to lose your shit.
We are human together. And that’s a beautiful thing.