Having a positive mindset isn’t about being happy all the time. Even when you are facing the challenging hours, days, weeks or months, you know that this time will pass. There will be calmer, happier, easier, exciting times to come.
Knowing that the human experience is facing the harder times, digging deep to reveal the inner strength that is just waiting for you. To know that good and bad times come in and out of our life just as natural as the ebb and flow of the waves in the ocean.
Sitting in peace, thinking of the day gone by as my mind and body feels exhausted.
I have had one of those challenging days and thought it was important to share this with you. We all have days of overwhelm, negativity, frustration as we are human!
Change has crept into all our lives. The simple things we took for granted seem so far, a walk with a friend, a safe trip to the shop, picking the kids up from a school knowing they’re learning, time and freedom to work in peace, to be able to earn money without fear of the future.
Our minds fear change, especially when it happens so quickly and unexpected.
One thing that is certain about life is that it can be uncertain. When we are head on with a change that feels so out of our control, after the initial shock, we can take back control of that resistant mind to take back power in our internal world.
Our mind wants to freak out like a little one having a tantrum, be self-destructive, buffer away the negative emotions with negative habits and be impulsive out of fear. This was definitely the type of day I had today!
I’ve been having moments of craving some time out from the day to day, time to be alone, to regroup and check in with my internal world whilst feeling guilty that I’m not spending quality time with the kids or enough creative focus on my work for the long term. Emotions of overwhelm creep in and my head feels full and heavy. Oh and the floors need cleaning!
I’m not alone in these emotions. They are just emotions, the thoughts I’m having about the sudden change in life.
Instead of indulging in these feelings, invite them in to sit, feel them and be the watcher as they come and pass by.
So we need some tools in our box to help us with the day to day. Dig deep as some of those tools might be a little dusty.
Write it down
When overwhelm kicks in, slow down and work backwards. What are the thoughts that are triggering the overwhelm emotions. When you say it out loud or write down the thoughts, they might sound a little crazy.
Is fear taking over and clouding the facts?
Create your new norm
Your normal routine has been paused and your mind might be grieving the past. So it’s time to find your new norm, a new routine. Make your bed, get changed, scheduling in your to do list and creating some focus into your days. When the day feels like it’s been a fail, look back and take note of what you have done, not what you haven't.
Identify your hats
Are you wearing lots of hats right now and having to fulfill so many roles all at once; parent, employer, teacher, housekeeper. We need different characteristics for each of these roles and it can be so hard to keep switching between them all. Make a list of the characteristics you need for each one so when you’re having to chop and change each time, you put the right hat on.
Have a day off
Dedicate a day where you can switch off from one of or a few of the roles. Give yourself permission to have that break and honour the switch off. It may even mean switching off your phone or removing and temptation to be in that role. Tell the kids its a free play day and you're staying in your PJs!
Schedule in worry
When you feel your mind is freaking out, other than writing it down, schedule in a time to worry about it. By the time it comes around, you’ll probably have forgotten why you were worrying.
Even more than ever is the time to lean into as much self-care moments in movement, mindfulness and managing your mind. Follow my Instagram and Facebook Page for some inspiration for this @magicmindandbody
Time for a new habit?
If you have more time than usual in isolation, maybe it’s time to create focus with a new healthy habit. Make it consistent, choose the same time each day for the habit, same place and there are ways to make the habit sustainable for when you’re back out in the real world. This is a whole other blog but I'm putting on help on my socials to help you with this.
These are just a few ways to help you face those day to day challenges that keep surfacing in the mind.
We are all having them and it's completely normal.
It’s time to dig deep, be a watcher of those thoughts and begin to lean into this temporary change.
Take those mindfulness moments and be grateful for the ordinary moments that fulfill our world.
Hold space for yourself when you are feeling fragile and know these emotions will pass.
If you are in need of some online coaching during this unsettling time and ready to create some new healthy and sustainable habits, just click on the image below.
It's business as you usual as I challenge myself with lots of different roles at the moment.
Stay safe x